When you have devastating news to process or something you are proud of…who do you call?
Who are the friends that won’t judge or condemn you?
Who are the ones that will answer your call at 2am?
I don’t know about you, but I couldn’t do without my trusted girlfriends — my inner circle. We have shared many of life’s triumphs and tragedies. We have prayed for and served one another. We’ve paid for the other’s lunch when a job loss arose. We’ve helped clean a house (or paid for house cleaners) when the going got rough. We’ve picked up each other’s kids in a bind. We’ve prayed boldly for each other’s kids as if they were our own.
What do people do without this kind of support and connection? I can’t even imagine not having a trusted friend to call in a bind, when you are panicking about bills, when you are needing encouragement to lift you out of that funk–a confidant who has your back.
I truly believe dependable friendships are VITAL to a happy life. When your mind is racing and journalling is just not cutting it, you need to get it out. When you think you’re going crazy, you need a faithful friend to talk you down. You need feedback on a gut feeling. You need an honest and loving opinion about a hard, life-impacting decision.
These friendships, they make up your inner circle — and it should be filled with those who will always bring you UP. They call you out on your toxic thoughts. They point you back to Christ and what is best for your life, and those around you. They take your hand and gently, lovingly guide you back to the path when you’ve gone astray.
Friend, I pray you have these loyal and reliable sidekicks.
BE this kind of friend. When someone opens up to you, be a prayer warrior. Follow up. Let them know you haven’t forgotten about their burden. Keep praying. Then follow up again…and again. Show them you remember and that you really, truly care.
Oh girls…start building that inner circle. It’s a lifeline. Your husband, fiance, boyfriend or Mom can’t always be your best friend. There may be temptations or struggles that are only appropriate to share with another girlfriend.
Yet — choose wisely, my friend.
Unfortunately, there are those who like to share the innermost secrets of others. Yes…even inside the church. It’s sad, but true. I have been stung more times than I care to admit.
A book I found EXTREMELY helpful after getting burned was SAFE PEOPLE by Dr. Henry Cloud. It was recommended by my counselor years ago when I was struggling with being TOO trusting. Silly me…I thought everyone had the same kind heart that I did!
Thankfully I realized that even though friends fail me, my Jesus will not. He is always there, always listening. But sometimes, we need a “Jesus with skin on.”
No more going it alone, girls. May today be the day you put together your inner circle.
One who has unreliable friends soon comes to ruin, but there is a friend who sticks closer than a brother. ~Proverbs 18:24